Yesterday was White Ribbon Day. A girl was walking around selling white ribbons that are meant to raise awareness about domestic violence against women. My manager and I both bought these ribbons and wore them. Many other people around work wore these ribbons as well.
I felt a bit weird wearing these ribbons because I really felt like I was showing off to others. The ribbons did raise awareness because I read a few articles online about violence against women, and supposedly “financial abuse” is a real thing that occurs.
According to the media, because women are encouraged to have children, they get pregnant and end up with the responsibility of looking after the children. They then leave the workforce and then become financially dependent on the husband who then has economic power over her. This makes her less likely to want to leave him and may mean that she accepts abuse because she needs him to pay for necessities like food and shelter.
When I thought about this more, I realized that women really need to stop looking to men. I agree that men should not be violent towards women, but women need to be careful as well. Women are partially to blame and need to take responsibility for their lives. In fact, I would even go as far as saying that women should not marry and should not have children. If a woman has a child, she has to get out of work and look after it. That is not good. She will lose money and be reliant on the man. Women love to think that men are caring beings who will save them, but this is a Hollywood fantasy. How can she be sure if the man she marries will always have this attitude? Humans are not robots. Humans are emotional, and emotions change over time.
My mother made the same mistake. She thought my dad was a caring and honest man. Turns out he was cheating on her in secret. He had a separate family with another woman and kept this secret. Sure it was the man who is at fault, but it doesn’t matter who is at fault.
It’s similar to crossing the road. Even if the traffic lights tell you that you should cross the road, you should always look left and right. If you cross the road without looking left and right expecting cars and trucks to follow the laws, you may be disappointed. Even if you cross the road legally, it makes no difference if a truck runs you over. It doesn’t matter if you’re right if you end up dead.
Likewise, even if it is discovered that the man is cheating with another woman, and it turns out that the man is ethically wrong, at the end of the day, he will be happily living with his new family and younger wife while the older wife is alone and likely broke due because she is out of the workforce because of pregnancy and responsibilities to look after children. She is also unable to remarry because she is old, and being old does not help with job hunting either. Even if she is ethically right, it makes no difference.
Women are lucky in that when they are young they are physically attractive, so they can use this to make money whereas men simply cannot do this. I have heard of many young girls making a lot of money online selling sexual services using their webcams. There are also plenty of jobs out there for women that do not include sex work. Many people are very willing to hire young girls simply because they look good, and young girls in customer service roles are more likely to boost business because customers like to deal with beautiful women. Women then have it easy when they are young and pretty, but they should not waste their time and blow their good looks on marriage because marriage doesn’t really provide anything. If they marry a rich man, they might get ahead, but it’s risky because a rich man is like to have a very strong prenup, and rich men will almost certainly cheat. In fact, even if women marry, they will get old, and when they get old, there is a good chance that any man will cheat on her or try to divorce her because old age makes women unattractive. This is not nice, I am aware, but it has to be said. This is the reason why marriage exists, in my opinion. Women know that when they get old they will become unattractive, so marriage exists in order to bind the man to the woman so that he will not stray and seek a younger female.
Women should focus on their careers and focus on saving up money for themselves because money in investments will look after her better than any man would. Money will feed and clothe her. Investments will never abuse or rape her. Investments like shares and ETFs will pay her dividends. Men may pay their women an allowance, but they may abuse their women as well.
I’ve got some female friends and they are always telling me about the fights they get into with their boyfriends. I just tell them not to bother with relationships, but they never listen. If they break up or have a fight with a boyfriend, they’re usually back with him or they get another guy within days, and many women say they need men because men provide security.
Girls need to focus on being financially independent rather than look for a man to provide for them because men are not reliable investments. Girls need to invest for themselves. Shares will pay dividends silently and reliably, and shares in good companies will grow these dividends over time. With men, you never know what will happen. Men react differently to how pretty girls are. If women are young and pretty, the man will splash cash on them, but when she is not, he will close up his wallet. He might cheat, he might divorce, or he might be abusive. All in all, for a woman (and even for a man), marriage fails the cost-benefit analysis and risk-benefit analysis. It’s a bad investment. Women need to go their own way.