My life is fine at the moment. Trying to build more alpha male behaviour has been successful, I think. It takes practice transforming yourself from a nice guy, but I think I am progressing well.
Yesterday, at work, I attended a team meeting where I was really able to make an important contribution. It feels good to be recognised in a positive way at work, and I find that this is starting to happen a lot. I think the key is to simply be earnest and to keep trying to be as helpful as possible rather than just sit back and expect the manager to hand everything to you. You are in charge of your own life.
I am handling my family and friends well. If I don’t want to do something, I have not been afraid to say no. I can think of three instances where I have just said no when invited to do something. This might not be a big deal to some, but for me it is a big deal.
I have a new approach to friends that is similar to investment portfolio management. Your friends are like an investment portfolio. You invest your money in businesses, bonds, stocks, property, or some other asset. You chop and change based on which asset you think will give you the greatest return. This, I think, should apply to friends. If there is a friend who, after meeting with them, doesn’t make you feel good, then the return from this friend is probably not going to be great, so it is necessary to divest and distance yourself from him and put your time into friends who make you feel good. I suppose the problem with me is that, in the past, I’ve been lazy, and I’ve just spent time with friends who keep seeking me out. Usually those people who seek you out are doing so because they want to use you in some way. Rather than passively accept an invitation to an event, I should really be picky. I should reject those offers that are not appealing for me. I should be able to say no and to tell people that I don’t want to do this or that. Then I need to proactively seek out those events or those people I want to be with.
Fund managers buy good assets and sell bad assets. The same applies with your friends. You put your time into good friends and spend less time with bad friends.